Besides the meaning of life and all its complexities, many times a man has questioned: “What do women want in a relationship?”
Needless to say, settling with a partner should not feel like rocket science although finding your person is no easy task. Sometimes, for women, the dating pool may seem like it’s filled with too many frogs and not nearly enough princes. This is why with all past experiences combined, we’ve somehow been able to narrow down what we truly want in a relationship.
1. To Feel Loved
Simply put, when a woman feels loved, she lets her guards down and become more open to her partner. Feeling the latter is definitely a red flag in any relationship. If she is unhappy about the little things, be sure to try to nip it at the bud and ease her mind. Upset about her day at work? Turn her day around and prepare an intimate and relaxing dinner. If she tends to give you the cold shoulder, learn to see through her words, actions, and moods and always try to see what the real root of it is. It’s never too late to turn things around when you’re committed to making her feel loved.
2. To Feel Seen
This is pretty much the same with women wanting to feel loved. She wants to feel like she’s being heard in the relationship and that you’re aware of her emotions. This doesn’t mean that she wants you to absorb her anxieties and feelings, but she does want you to be a witness to it. If she’s sitting across the room from you and you aren’t picking up on the signs of an emotional breakdown, she’ll slowly feel more and more invisible and less trusting of you. Life can seem extremely lonely, even within a relationship. This is why you have to constantly show your partner that at least one person will be witness to her and her journey through life.
3. To Be Allowed To Be Nurturing
Just as masculine energy has the need to protect, feminine energy has the desire to nurture. Women want to see that we trust them enough to open up to them. They want to be able to help us through our sadness. Most importantly, women want to care for their partner. Though not all women may have explicit nurturing traits, let your partner try to take care of you and your needs. She may not necessarily be the best cook, the best homemaker but be sure to always acknowledge simple acts of gesture especially if she does things outside of her comfort zone. Appreciate the efforts and let her in. She wants to love you.
4. To Be Desired
The importance of desire and physical touch in every relationship cannot be stressed enough. Although many may say that looks may change, this should not mean that you have the free pass to stop making your woman feel desirable. Women need to feel desired. They want to make sure you see and appreciate them as a feminine sexual being. Praise her looks, be observant whenever she changes her hair, her perfume, her style. Don’t stop being spontaneous. Grab her appreciatively and remind her that her looks first caught your attention and everything else followed.
5. A communicative and honest relationship
In the same way that you would like your partner to articulate their needs directly to you, they very well might be feeling the same thing about your communication style. It should not be your partner’s responsibility to solve your emotional state like some mystery and vice versa. A rule of thumbs – Couples that don’t learn to consciously communicate will face issues when it comes to intimacy, conflict, and relational growth. Understanding your partner’s inner world and having them understand yours is pivotal to true connection. If you struggle to communicate in a way that evolves your relationship, then over time you will find that you grow apart.
6. Value personal space
When you enter a relationship, it might be tempting to let go of your personal space and privacy. As you develop said relationship, your lives start to converge naturally anyway. The result? The line between alone time and time together starts to lean in the latter’s direction. Always remember that being partners doesn’t mean you have to do every single thing together. Needing space does not necessarily mean your relationship is doomed. In fact, it can even be a healthy sign that you’re prioritizing yourself as an individual both inside and outside of your relationship. It doesn’t really matter what you do in your spare time without your partner. It can be a side project, a hobby or simply hanging out with a group of friends.
7. To Be Appreciated
Remind your partner that you love her. Tell her that you appreciate what she brings to your life. More importantly, show her what she means to you. The fastest way to set your relationship for an impending doom is by ignoring your partner and taking her for granted. Appreciation is the opposite of those things. So tell her what you appreciate about her, and tell her often.
8. To Feel Like She Can Count On You
Women want to know that they can handle themselves when life happens. They want to know that their partner won’t run and hide when they get a bit ‘too emotional’. They want to know that they can count on you. When you tell your partner you’ll do something, and then you don’t do it, it hurts her and most often than not, she may even keep tabs on you. She loses a piece of trust in you that has to be earned back. Even seemingly small things break that trust like you saying that you will wash the dishes shortly after dinner, but washing them the next morning instead. In a nutshell, do what you say you will do, be who you say you are, and be consistent in your actions.