How to turn your life around 360 degrees? Life is a journey, how we view life is within our control. Upon reaching the age of 30s where most people proactively try to understand how the world works tend to realize that life offers many great opportunities to learn and discover our fullest potentials. Upon identifying their set of goals and maximizing their potentials to learn, it will lead them to the direction in reaching their dreams, some usually attain success because they put more attention to the lessons that life teaches them.
Some lessons are learned the hard way, but by coping with those challenges, one can come out of the experience stronger and wiser being more able to face life’s difficulties that lie ahead. These life lessons can be from our relationships, finances, careers, business, health or family. As our life continues to unfold, it is important to always learn something new and this will take us a lifetime of a learning experience.
Life lessons are not all equal. Some simply have more impact and greater value when you learn them earlier in life and some lessons are helpful when you learn them at an older age. All of these lessons will transform your life better regardless of your age, gender, educational attainment, occupation or social status. Some of these lessons may come from personal experience, yet there are others that we learn from others, reading books or watching lifestyle shows and documentaries. Furthermore, there are life lessons that we simply learn better until we encounter certain situations in our life that will sometimes catch us off-guard and unprepared.
The following list unveils some of life’s important lessons that will make a person excel in their 30s:
1. Make your savings for your retirement a top priority
Be financially stable and start saving for old age to prevent living paycheck to paycheck. The following categories that this advice fell into are:
- Prioritize paying all your debts as soon as you can – If you are in debt that is more than 10% of your gross annual net salary, this becomes a red flag. You have to stop making unnecessary spending.
- Secure an emergency fund – This will prevent or minimize your financial horrors like encountering health issues, lawsuits, bad business deals, and the likes. Unexpected expenses could badly affect your budget.
- Don’t spend frivolously. Don’t buy a house unless you can afford to get a good mortgage with good rates.
- Make it a habit to save a portion of your salary and deposit it on your savings account or by investing in insurance.
- Don’t invest in anything you don’t understand. Sales people’s jobs are to sell, don’t put your full trust to these agents since their main concern is to get a sale.
2. Start taking care of your health
We all know how to take good care of ourselves, including our health that requires better sleep, eating better, getting a regular exercise, and much more. Like financial stability, getting healthy and staying healthy is equally important as retirement savings.
The way you treat your body
has its cumulative effect, it breaks down every single moment without you
noticing it. Upon interviewing some critical illness survivors, they have the
same response on this area of concern, to regularly exercise and eat better,
just like what our mothers used to teach us when we were all at a young
3. Stay away from toxic people
Learn to say no to people and activities that don’t do you any good. Setting boundaries and limits are one of the best things you can do for yourself. Don’t let other people getting comfortable in treating you with disrespect, do this for your sanity and your children’s. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you and accept you for what you are.
Selfishness and self-interest are two different things, some people find it hard to stick with their boundaries because they find it difficult to hurt someone else’s feelings, or they get caught up in the desire to change the other person or make them treat them the way they want to be treated which will never work.
Upon reaching the age of 30s, we learn that good relationships are hard to come by, that there are so many opportunities to meet new people and make friends with them. And there is no valid reason to waste our precious time who don’t help us on our life’s path.
4. Be good and stay good to those you care about
While enforcing strict boundaries on who we let into our lives, making time for our friends and families that we decide to keep close is a must. Appreciate those who are close to you, because you can get all material things back but you can never get back the time that has already been lost. Tragedies have no exemption and it happens to everyone’s lives, be the person that others can turn to when low moments happen. During the age of 30s, this is when a lot of unfortunate events happen, helping someone through tough times by simply being there, listening to them without any judgment will deepen your relationships with them in a way that you can’t probably imagine.
5. You can’t have all the things in life. Keep your focus on your strengths
Focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses. Put your heart on one or two goals or aspirations and work towards them and avoid distractions. You have to accept that you cannot do everything and it takes a lot of sacrifice and determination to achieve anything special in life. It may take some of us years to figure out what we are good at and what we enjoy doing, but if you happen to figure this out, keep your focus and don’t be afraid to take risks.
6. Don’t be afraid to take risks on things that you can still change
It is never too late to reset. Those people who have experience biggest regrets are those who chose to stay in something that they are aware that is not working out. Don’t let social expectations deter you from taking some major risks and start over and don’t be afraid of tearing everything down if you have the power to build it all back up again.
7. Continuously grow and develop yourself
Everyone should continuously make an effort to work on improving and growing themselves. A human being has two assets that will never go back once it has been lost: the health and intelligence. Most people stop growing and working on themselves upon reaching their 20s while those who are in their 30s are too busy to worry about self-improvement. But if you are among the few who continuously educate themselves and improve physical health, you will be light-years ahead of the pack by reaching your 40s.
8. Nobody still knows what they are doing, get accustomed to it
The things that you consider important now will seem unimportant months or years from now. You will never know what the future holds, no one does. Things will not develop as you expect it, it is better to stop assuming that you can plan ahead and obsessing about what is currently happening because things change. As the saying goes, “nothing is permanent”. You can take more chances and not lose anything, and what you never had will never be lost.
9. Invest in your family
Family is an absolute necessity to have a happy and fulfilling life. The majority of those people who have healthy and non-toxic relationships believe that family is worth investing, especially those who already have their own children. Having kids will make you a better person, they push you to your limits and they make you happy. Having kids on your 30s should not be deferred and this is something that you will never regret.
10. Be kind to yourself, Be selfish and Do something good for yourself
No one will care or think about your life as a fraction of what you do. Sweating on the small stuff that won’t matter in the long run will not benefit you even a little. You can dwell on it for a few minutes and let it go after. You have to accept all the life lessons and learn from them.